Chapter 9 Making Assumptions is a Waste of Time
…………. We all do it. We all have felt the ‘what if’ and the ‘why did they do that?’ emotions. We are after all human. I know I keep saying it but we are, and I see how the energy given to the making of assumptions diminishes the light held within people. I see how human beings spend a great deal of time worrying about things they have no control over and how people can cause ill feeling within others with a simple misuse of words.
There is an amazing little book that you may have come across – The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. I forget how I found it, but it changed my way of looking at things. It changed the way I related to my clients and it certainly made me look very closely at how words are used.
Very often the emotions created by words spoken are felt
long after the words are forgotten.
There is no point in me rewriting Don Miguels book here in a simple form, but I can condense the meaning as how I see it being used. These four very simple ‘Agreements’ can really help you use your energy wisely and direct your thoughts in a different way. This will enable you to move through your life a little freer and able to literally see things differently. Remember though, not everyone is evolving at the same speed as you. Everyone is on a different path and some people will always be negative and ready to blame others. You can spend a life time trying to change people and make them see things the way you do, but I have learnt that you can only take a horse to water, you cannot make it drink. Frustrating as it may be, you can only do your best. You cannot force someone against their will to change or to see it your way, and sometimes you have to step back to just allow them to find a path that suits them. Everyone has free will and has to make their choices. Remember there is no such thing as right or wrong. What may be right for you may be wrong for another. Be respectful of each other’s choices.
Be Impeccable with your word * Don’t take things personally
*Don’t make assumptions* Always do your best.